Saying NO. It’s not always easy to do. We have lots of pulls on us from multiple directions. There is television and social media saying we should look like this/live like this, and if we are not, we are not living our best life. Or worse, we are not worthy, welcome or winning. Too many of us try, to our on detriment, to achieve what the world says success is supposed to be. But is the world right? I am not saying we should all give up wanting nice things, move to the mountains and live off the land, but at some point, we have to just say “NO”.
Say “NO” to what?
SAY NO TO…spending money you do not have, on things you do not need, to appear to have a life that, in truth, you do not have, and maybe, do not even want. Keeping up with the “Jones” or Kardashians, is old and expensive. Plus, people change. Maybe that life is what you wanted in the past, but not anymore. You are not the same person. Or maybe it was a dream for your parents or grandparents. They had this “wonderful” life planned out for you, so they could live vicariously through you. It was THEIR dream, however, it isn’t YOUR dream or the path YOU want to take. It is difficult and exhausting trying to live up to someone else’s expectations or live the life THEY wanted.
SAY NO TO…your own unrealistic and/or outdated expectations. This can be a hard one. I mean, who knows the many, many, MANY reasons you deserve this, need this, want this? We rationalize so many things to ourselves. I believe I have talked myself into more bad decisions than anyone else ever could…LOL. We know our strengths and our weaknesses. We know the words to say in our head (or out loud) to trigger us. We know we really want to say YES, so why not? Well, primarily because it isn’t a good decision. Because we are using money as a short-term fix ignoring our long-term problem. Spending money can be easier than facing the issue. Saying NO can hurt even if it is the right thing to do. Of course, some will counter with YOLO! You Only Live Once! Nope! That isn’t true. You live EVERYDAY. You die once.
You live EVERYDAY. You die once.
So what should you say “YES” to?
SAY YES TO…pursing the life YOU want. Of course, that means something different to all of us. Completely okay because we are all unique. Some of us are bling, some of us are minimalist. My point is don’t spend your energy, time and money pursing a life you do not want, especially if it is pushed at you by people who just want to sell you something.
SAY YES TO… deciding what you want in life, making plans to achieve it, and then, most importantly ACTING on your plans. This doesn’t work, if you don’t take action. Your life is YOUR life and only you should get to live it. If it isn’t what you wanted or expected, now is the time to begin making decisions to change that. The changes don’t have to be big or rash (unless your situation calls for them to be), you can always begin small. Start as simply as making a call or sending an email for more information.
No one likes to hear or say NO. This is a “YES” kind of world. We are trained to be agreeable, to work with the team, to toe the line and etc. However, you cannot and should not say “yes” to everything. Be strategic about what you agree to, and lovingly (or maybe not so lovingly…LOL) say “no” when needed. It’s YOUR life, make plans to LIVE IT!
Until Next Time♥…
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